In this path of healing have you “discovered” something new about yourself, any old patterns? Did you find out something you didn’t know about your family’s history and family tree?
My father has passed almost 2 years ago, and I had the chance to be with him, for the last time, just a couple of months before he died. My oldest son Gabriel was with me on that 2020 trip to Brazil. It was an opportunity to bathe him in our love and gratitude, and also to learn more about his upbringing, his dreams, and his challenges growing up without a father (his father died when he was just 2 months old), and in poverty. What a gift he has given us before he departed from this earthly plane.
I have loved to talk to the elderly since I was very young. My maternal grandmother entertained me by answering my endless questions when I was a teenager. She seemed to enjoy as much as I did our conversations. It was pretty cool to hear from her the feeling of watching the first car ever arriving in her small town- remember, Brazil is way behind countries like the US, in terms of material development- amongst so many other things. It is nice to keep hearing from my mother, now 79, more stories about my family, even to know that my grandmother was a very good writer. That explains a lot the writing bug in the family. My mother is a very gifted writer, I love writing, and so do my three children. I consider being a really nice gift to have, to be able to express ourselves through the written word. There is quite a lot of toxic patterns in my lineage too, and tragic departures.
When we study our family tree we get the chance to notice patterns that have been repeating themselves for generations. Some patterns can be very interesting, so good that become a contribution to the family and society, others are very detrimental to our well-being, to the well-being of our family and it can ripple negatively to our society. Those are really worth to be looked at, to be accepted and integrated into the history of our lineage. When we can acknowledge, respect, and honor without judgment not only the light but the shadows of our ancestors, we heal ourselves, we release those that came before us and the future generations. We come where we come from, from who we came from, comparing, judging, or belittling our origin brings nothing but pain, and certainly takes us away from our freedom to express ourselves in the totality of our being. There is invariably the seed of something amazing inside each and every one of us. Let’s keep nourishing it, first with our acknowledgment, then with our sincere love and gratitude.
So, for this coming month of February, I invite you to bring into your memory, into your awareness a relative, or someone from your lineage and include fully and completely his/her story into the story of your family. Someone that might have been forgotten because of disabilities, because of inappropriate behavior, for whatever reason. If you feel even more open-hearted, light a candle, say a prayer and release the story to the light. Observe what happens in your heart, in your life in the following days.
Also, I share with you a book that changed quite a lot my perception of the world, and also about myself and my family dynamic:
The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz – you can get a copy of the book at our gift shop at the studio. During the month of February, you can get a 15% discount on all books!
As I continue my Shamanic Healing training, I will be scheduling in-person sessions only on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays.
No classes have been scheduled yet, I will let you know as soon as I have them on my calendar.