Maybe you have never talked about your feelings being hurt as a child, or a teenager, or even as an adult. Maybe you grew up taking in everything that was said and done to you at face value without even considering what the other person truly meant or was going through, not aware of psychological projection –projection refers to unconsciously taking unwanted emotions or traits you don’t like about yourself and attributing them to someone else. Maybe forgiveness was a word for you that could never be in the same sentence with the names of the people that might have hurt you or caused any form of pain and suffering.
How we “learn” to react towards trauma and extremely difficult life events usually becomes a pattern of behavior in our lives. Remember, when we are growing up (and even within our mother’s womb) we are imprinting our “inner hardware” with what will determine our own patterns of behavior in relationships with others and ourselves. That pattern, for the most part, perpetuates the pain and suffering that was once inflicted upon us (consciously or unconsciously) and takes us in the opposite direction of freedom and happiness. Besides, it usually trickles down to the following generations. It is possible to change that and erase patterns, and also create new healthy ones!
Let’s talk about forgiveness
What does forgiveness mean? Many masters and wise spiritual teachers explained to me, along with my training, the importance of understanding the meaning of it. Forgiveness never meant condoning inappropriate, abusive, or hurtful actions of others towards us. It means finding ways to release from our physical body, energy body, and spiritual body the heaviness and burden caused by the pain.
How do we do that? We do it by practicing qigong, practicing yoga, practicing meditation- in particular Tonglen Practice-
“as we inhale we make the wish, ” I wish all beings be free from suffering”., praying, doing the fire ceremony (ask me how if you are curious to know), cutting energetic cords, through TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique), and through so many othet techniques. I cannot say enough the importance of practice if we wish to shift energy and improve our overall health and lead a more fulfilling life.
We must practice being flexible in our ways of thinking , our ways of being so we can truly be open to infinite possibilities.
A great book that will offer you scientific explanations of the power you hold within.
We also must educate ourselves about our energy body. Chinese Medicine, Korean Medicine, Ayurvedic Medicine have been teaching us about how our emotions, environment, food, air, and life experiences affect the physical condition of our bodies. If our lungs are more susceptible to illness, we might look into the grief and sadness we might be holding within. If we hold too much anger and frustration, our liver meridian might be weakened. If there is too much fear and anxiety in our lives, our kidney meridian might be weakened. If energetic imbalances become chronic they can affect the correspondent physical organs.
Through conscious movement and balance of our energy body, we can contribute in a more powerful way to our own healing. Flexing our “forgiveness muscle” might be just what we need at this moment to shift our health condition to a more positive and stronger one!
Our intention and willingness to forgive can be enough as we take the first step to the beginning of a beautiful journey!
I dedicate this post to a very dear client and friend, Marlene, who passed away this past Friday at the age of 86, almost 87! She was a client of mine who has experienced life on Earth the longest. I witnessed, over the years, her struggles to make peace with the stories and pain from her upbringing, and her commitment to the practices of Qigong and Meditation. It is never too late to start the Healing Journey. I loved her very much and am grateful for all she has taught me.
- I wish my friend Marlene a happy return back home!